The gunman was a 29-years-old husband and the father of a young child. Was he a lone-wolf home-grown terrorist? Investigations are digging up more and more things that seem confusing, conflicting, alarming, and troublesome. I cannot help but to follow some of the stories about his upbringings, his father, his ex-wife, his wife, his job, and his targets ... what people said ... and my head was spinning.
Who really was this guy? How can God let this kind of bad things happen?
I don't have the answer but this I know: If not for the mercy and grace of God, things could be much worse.
How can we live with so many bad news in a Fallen world?
I thought about what Jesus said. “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)
Father's Day is coming soon. I want to appreciate dads who are trying their best to be involved in the lives of their children. Even if you are learning as you go, your participation and involvement count. Don't ever underestimate your role.
In his book, "bringing up BOYS: Practical advice and encouragement for those shaping the next generation of men," Dr. James Dobson included a chapter on "the Essential Father" which shares the following research findings:
- There is an undeniable linkage between fathers and babies beginning at birth.
- Infants as young as six weeks old can differentiate between a mother's and a father's voice.
- By eight weeks, babies can distinguish between their mother's and their father's caretaking methods.
- Infants are born with a drive to find and connect to their fathers. As they begin to speak, their word for "father" often precedes their word for "mother." The reasons for this are unknown.
- Toddlers are especially obvious in their assertions of fatherneed: they will seek out their father, ask for him when he's not present, be fascinated when he talks to them on the phone, and investigate every part of his body if allowed.
- "Teenagers express fatherneed in yet more complex ways, competing with their father and confronting his values, beliefs, and, of course, limits. For so many sons and daughters, it is only at the death of the father that they discover the intensity and longevity of their fatherneed, especially when it has gone begging.
"A fifty-eight-year-old man who described the unhappy memory of his father. His dad had been a minister who was consumed by work and other interests. This father never came to sporting events or any other activities in which his son was a participant. He neither disciplined nor affirmed him. By the time the boy was a senior in high school, he was the starting guard on a winning big-school football team. When his team qualified for the state championship, this boy was desperate to have his dad see him play. He begged, "Would you please be there on Friday night? It is very important to me." The father promised to come.
On the night of the big game, the boy was on the field warming up when he happened to see his father enter the stadium with two other men wearing business suits. They stood talking among themselves for a moment or two and then left. The man who told me this story had tears streaming down his cheeks as he relived that difficult moment of so long ago. It had been forty years since that night, and yet the rejection and disappointment he felt as a teenager were as vivid as ever. A year after our conversation, this man's father died at eighty-three years of age. My friend stood along before his dad's casket at the funeral home and said sorrowfully, "Dad, we could have shared so much love together--but I never really knew you."
Do you feel the pain of this man? Are you and/or someone you know also yearning for the love of a father? Don't give up!
The "Father's Love Letter" shares the heart of our Heavenly Father, the Creator God, who loves you and me unconditionally. This letter has helped millions of people, including me -- in print, audio and video -- when something triggered us into depression and anxiety.
For English go to http://fathersloveletter.com/index.html
For Chinese go to http://fathersloveletter.com/Chinese/
I love both videos. When the letter is being read, the English video shows pictures of a wonderfully created world, and the Mandarin video shows many wonderfully created children.
We can focus on the bad things or focus on what is good.
Let us honor our Abba Father who created us and has given us new lives in Christ. Our Heavenly Father loves you as His child. May God help you to get along with, enjoy, and influence your children for years to come!
Do you have a special father-child story to share?
E-mail me before midnight on Thursday, July 7th, 2016. Your name will be entered into a drawing to win a 50-minute "Renew Your Parent-Child Relationship" coaching session with me. You may apply as a father, a mother, or an adult child.
May you have peace in Christ.
Happy Father's Day!