November 10, 2015
"Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up." (Proverbs 12:25)
One way I deal with anxiety is to talk to someone I trust about my feelings, reasoning or thinking or the conclusions I've come to. Have you experienced other effective ways to deal with anxiety?
How about you? How Well Do You Handle Anxiety?
Showing posts with label Quizzes. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Quizzes. Show all posts
Sunday, January 10, 2016
How Well Do You Practice Empathy?
October 27, 2015
Have you ever tried telling a friend something and he responded with, "If I were you, I would not be angry"?
What was your reaction? Did you get even angrier thinking, I'm sharing my feeling and he is shutting me up. He doesn't care!
What if you are the person saying those words with good intention to help? Do you feel misunderstood, hurt and rejected when she yelled at you? Why does she always overreact? What have I done wrong? Why can't she understand?
You're not alone! Both of you have similar needs. You'd like to be heard, be understood, be accepted!
But all we can do is seek first to understand than to be understood. Someone has to practice empathy first. How about you?
Have you ever tried telling a friend something and he responded with, "If I were you, I would not be angry"?
What was your reaction? Did you get even angrier thinking, I'm sharing my feeling and he is shutting me up. He doesn't care!
What if you are the person saying those words with good intention to help? Do you feel misunderstood, hurt and rejected when she yelled at you? Why does she always overreact? What have I done wrong? Why can't she understand?
You're not alone! Both of you have similar needs. You'd like to be heard, be understood, be accepted!
But all we can do is seek first to understand than to be understood. Someone has to practice empathy first. How about you?
Are You A Good Listener?
August 25, 2015
"Help! Nobody is Listening!"
When that happens, you feel frustrated and alone, and wonder whether he or she cares.
Surprisingly, when conversations are not going anywhere, the other person often feels the same.
Do you play a part? Can you break the cycle of not listening to each other? Find out from the quiz how good a listener are you.
"Help! Nobody is Listening!"
When that happens, you feel frustrated and alone, and wonder whether he or she cares.
Surprisingly, when conversations are not going anywhere, the other person often feels the same.
Do you play a part? Can you break the cycle of not listening to each other? Find out from the quiz how good a listener are you.
Do You Have Trust Issues?
April 28, 2015
I still remember the trip we took recently to Jenner north of Bodega Bay!
Traveling on that part of Highway 1 (one) was some experience. On our way home, I was on the side looking down the cliff. Of course I was scared, but I was able to trust James' driving and trust God's protection.
James and I would not be able to enjoy the beautiful scenery if we believed it was not safe out there. That adventurous road ride reminded me of ups and downs in life involving trust. Have you experienced pain of betrayal directly or indirectly?
"Even my close friend, someone I trusted, one who shared my bread, has turned against me." (Psalm 41:9)
There were times that I could not trust anyone for my life. Praise the Lord that now I can share my joy and hope with others (more readily). How about you? Will you take the quiz Do You Have Trust Issues?
I still remember the trip we took recently to Jenner north of Bodega Bay!
Traveling on that part of Highway 1 (one) was some experience. On our way home, I was on the side looking down the cliff. Of course I was scared, but I was able to trust James' driving and trust God's protection.
"Even my close friend, someone I trusted, one who shared my bread, has turned against me." (Psalm 41:9)
There were times that I could not trust anyone for my life. Praise the Lord that now I can share my joy and hope with others (more readily). How about you? Will you take the quiz Do You Have Trust Issues?
How Well Do You Communicate?
December 9, 2014
If you want to improve your relationship with your children, your spouse, your coworkers, or anyone else, learn to acknowledge their feelings before you seek to fix their problem.
Have you ever speaking too soon, saying, "You should..." or "What I would do is..."?
We all do. In our eagerness to help, we jump right over the most important thing; acknowledging how they feel. At best, people are only partially ready to hear your ideas at this point. Worst-case scenario, they feel like you've shut them down. To open their ears to your suggestions, take just a moment and ask yourself, "How is this person feeling right now?" Then articulate it. "You sound frustrated," or "you seem sad about that," are simple yet powerful observations.
The reason it works on everyone, from children to CEOs, is that our human nature yearns to feel understood. Try it, and watch your communications flourish.
If you want to improve your relationship with your children, your spouse, your coworkers, or anyone else, learn to acknowledge their feelings before you seek to fix their problem.
Have you ever speaking too soon, saying, "You should..." or "What I would do is..."?
We all do. In our eagerness to help, we jump right over the most important thing; acknowledging how they feel. At best, people are only partially ready to hear your ideas at this point. Worst-case scenario, they feel like you've shut them down. To open their ears to your suggestions, take just a moment and ask yourself, "How is this person feeling right now?" Then articulate it. "You sound frustrated," or "you seem sad about that," are simple yet powerful observations.
The reason it works on everyone, from children to CEOs, is that our human nature yearns to feel understood. Try it, and watch your communications flourish.
How Well Do You Handle Fear?
October 14, 2014
Have you ever been scared when doing something new in an unfamiliar environment?
In 1997-1998, I did my seminary practicum training at a Christian residential recovery program in San Jose. I was assigned to provide individual, family, and group counseling to addicted, abused or homeless women and their young children. I still remember counseling each person in her small dorm room. I will never forget conducting my first counseling group with me being the only Asian. Imagine me feeling stuck when one 19-year-old asked, "So, what is your drug of choice?"
The best answer I could come up with was that I was a workaholic for many years. She quickly commented how addicted to work was different from addicted to chemicals. Without words to defend myself, all I could do was to listen. That night, I wrote on my journal about the suffering I saw and the inadequacy I felt. There is no way for me to continue without God's help.
My supervisor Lorraine was a God-send. She helped me to apply what I learned in counseling classes one session at a time. As I listened to the women's traumatic stories and watched them struggling to rebuild their lives, I gained deeper understanding of why we needed a Savior, and the amazing grace of God.
Lorraine was also my professor on a course called "Counseling Violence and Abuse," during class, she often reminded her students that we could do what we do only by the grace of God. That one year of practical training under Lorraine gave me the courage to continue with my 3,000 hours of internship required for licensure. Recently I attended a party celebrating Dr. Lorraine Hutchinson 20 years of teaching.
Do you feel inadequate at work, or as a spouse, parent, or adult child of your aging parents from time to time? Is fear holding you back from trying something different? Take this simple quiz to find out How Well Do You Handle Fear?
Have you ever been scared when doing something new in an unfamiliar environment?
In 1997-1998, I did my seminary practicum training at a Christian residential recovery program in San Jose. I was assigned to provide individual, family, and group counseling to addicted, abused or homeless women and their young children. I still remember counseling each person in her small dorm room. I will never forget conducting my first counseling group with me being the only Asian. Imagine me feeling stuck when one 19-year-old asked, "So, what is your drug of choice?"
The best answer I could come up with was that I was a workaholic for many years. She quickly commented how addicted to work was different from addicted to chemicals. Without words to defend myself, all I could do was to listen. That night, I wrote on my journal about the suffering I saw and the inadequacy I felt. There is no way for me to continue without God's help.
My supervisor Lorraine was a God-send. She helped me to apply what I learned in counseling classes one session at a time. As I listened to the women's traumatic stories and watched them struggling to rebuild their lives, I gained deeper understanding of why we needed a Savior, and the amazing grace of God. Lorraine was also my professor on a course called "Counseling Violence and Abuse," during class, she often reminded her students that we could do what we do only by the grace of God. That one year of practical training under Lorraine gave me the courage to continue with my 3,000 hours of internship required for licensure. Recently I attended a party celebrating Dr. Lorraine Hutchinson 20 years of teaching.
Do you feel inadequate at work, or as a spouse, parent, or adult child of your aging parents from time to time? Is fear holding you back from trying something different? Take this simple quiz to find out How Well Do You Handle Fear?
Are You Too Cautious?
September 23, 2014
I love speaking at retreats and camps. I was blessed last weekend and want to thank all the participants and co-workers from Herald's Family Rebuilding Center (HFRC). I also want to thank James (my husband of 39 years) for being my chauffeur, tech support, and real life prop for object lessons on Understanding Self, Handling Emotions, Resolving Conflicts, and Communicating Love.
Most couples would agree with me that "Falling in love is easy, but maintaining a close relationship is not." What I used to consider as "suffering" and "constant grinding" due to our differences have turned out to be God's way of shaping and molding us.
Growing in relationship with self, others, and God often means we have to step out of our comfort zone. I definitely had times that I was too cautions to try something new (or just different).
I love speaking at retreats and camps. I was blessed last weekend and want to thank all the participants and co-workers from Herald's Family Rebuilding Center (HFRC). I also want to thank James (my husband of 39 years) for being my chauffeur, tech support, and real life prop for object lessons on Understanding Self, Handling Emotions, Resolving Conflicts, and Communicating Love.
Growing in relationship with self, others, and God often means we have to step out of our comfort zone. I definitely had times that I was too cautions to try something new (or just different).
How Emotionally Resilient Are You?
September 9, 2014
How well do your family members respond to life's challenges with courage and emotional stamina? When facing disappointments and obstacles, do you easily give up hope?
When you read "HOPE IS NOWHERE," did you see "Hope is No Where" or "Hope is Now Here"?
Your future could depend on how you look at things. To help others, you have to first get help for yourself. Please take the following test to find out how emotionally resilient you are.
How well do your family members respond to life's challenges with courage and emotional stamina? When facing disappointments and obstacles, do you easily give up hope?
When you read "HOPE IS NOWHERE," did you see "Hope is No Where" or "Hope is Now Here"?
Your future could depend on how you look at things. To help others, you have to first get help for yourself. Please take the following test to find out how emotionally resilient you are.
Saturday, January 9, 2016
How Are You Coping with Grief and Loss?
April 8, 2014
Are you bothered by Malaysia Airlines MH370 vanishing off radar screens on its flight from Kuala Lumpur to Beijing? 239 people missing just like that? The nightmare of losing someone unexpectedly could happen to anyone, even you and me!
There are so many unanswered questions. Only one thing is for sure. The grief and loss of someone dear is difficult to bear. The heart wrenching videos from Beijing showed us pain without end.
"Have mercy on me, Lord, for I am faint;
Heal me, Lord, for my bones are in agony.
My soul is in deep anguish.
How long, Lord, how long?" (Psalm 6:2-3)
My heart goes out to the victims, their families and friends. I wish they know God so loves the world that He sent His Son Jesus Christ who suffered and died for us.
"Surely He has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; Yet we esteemed Him stricken, Smitten by God, and afflicted. But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, and by His stripes we are healed." (Isaiah 53:4-5).
Everyone faces losses (e.g. relationships, jobs, dreams) sometimes. I still miss my mom who died suddenly in 1975, but I have learned there is hope and help and healing in Christ. Life is precious; accept and appreciate each other while you can. I am grateful for life. Just last week, our third grandchild was born. It's a boy.
"How Are You Coping with Grief and Loss?" May you find ideas that help yourself and others. Remember that Easter comes after Good Friday!!
Are you bothered by Malaysia Airlines MH370 vanishing off radar screens on its flight from Kuala Lumpur to Beijing? 239 people missing just like that? The nightmare of losing someone unexpectedly could happen to anyone, even you and me!
There are so many unanswered questions. Only one thing is for sure. The grief and loss of someone dear is difficult to bear. The heart wrenching videos from Beijing showed us pain without end.
"Have mercy on me, Lord, for I am faint;
Heal me, Lord, for my bones are in agony.
My soul is in deep anguish.
How long, Lord, how long?" (Psalm 6:2-3)
My heart goes out to the victims, their families and friends. I wish they know God so loves the world that He sent His Son Jesus Christ who suffered and died for us.
"Surely He has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; Yet we esteemed Him stricken, Smitten by God, and afflicted. But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, and by His stripes we are healed." (Isaiah 53:4-5).
Everyone faces losses (e.g. relationships, jobs, dreams) sometimes. I still miss my mom who died suddenly in 1975, but I have learned there is hope and help and healing in Christ. Life is precious; accept and appreciate each other while you can. I am grateful for life. Just last week, our third grandchild was born. It's a boy.
"How Are You Coping with Grief and Loss?" May you find ideas that help yourself and others. Remember that Easter comes after Good Friday!!
How Well Are You Listening to Your Children?
March 11, 2014
I always enjoyed worshiping at BASS. This year, our worship leader came with a band, but he still led many songs with familiar words such as, "This is all my hope and peace, nothing but the blood of Jesus."
From the general session and workshops, I am reminded what is important in the eyes of God as we respond to His call to serve.
"He has shown you, O man, what is good; And what does the Lord require of you But to do justly, To love mercy, And to walk humbly with your God?" (Micah 6:8)
I thought about Jeanne a lot as I walked around campus, because I was used to running into her at BASS when I turned a corner or walked into a room. What a blessing it is to know such a special person who listened to my feelings, thoughts, and needs! Even though Jeanne was a director, teacher and trainer, she listened. Read the "Real Life Story" to learn more. But first, find out how well are you listening to your children.
I always enjoyed worshiping at BASS. This year, our worship leader came with a band, but he still led many songs with familiar words such as, "This is all my hope and peace, nothing but the blood of Jesus."
From the general session and workshops, I am reminded what is important in the eyes of God as we respond to His call to serve."He has shown you, O man, what is good; And what does the Lord require of you But to do justly, To love mercy, And to walk humbly with your God?" (Micah 6:8)
I thought about Jeanne a lot as I walked around campus, because I was used to running into her at BASS when I turned a corner or walked into a room. What a blessing it is to know such a special person who listened to my feelings, thoughts, and needs! Even though Jeanne was a director, teacher and trainer, she listened. Read the "Real Life Story" to learn more. But first, find out how well are you listening to your children.
Friday, January 8, 2016
Living Your Own Life on a 2-Way Street
August 27, 2013
Our son was five when I started going to church. Now his daughter is almost five. A few weeks ago, I walked up a slope with my grandchildren. They were skipping and looking around with excitement and enthusiasm. My heart was overflowed with joy and gratitude. Who could have imagined such a picture before 1989?
Although I already fulfilled the American dream in my early thirties, something important was missing in my life. When my marriage and parenting did not work, I felt frustrated and depressed to the point that I secretly contemplated a divorce. I thought it was all my husband's fault that I was unhappy. You see, James promised to take me out to eat everyday before we got married (when I said I did not know how to cook). Why couldn't he love my child my way?!
Our son was five when I started going to church. Now his daughter is almost five. A few weeks ago, I walked up a slope with my grandchildren. They were skipping and looking around with excitement and enthusiasm. My heart was overflowed with joy and gratitude. Who could have imagined such a picture before 1989?
Although I already fulfilled the American dream in my early thirties, something important was missing in my life. When my marriage and parenting did not work, I felt frustrated and depressed to the point that I secretly contemplated a divorce. I thought it was all my husband's fault that I was unhappy. You see, James promised to take me out to eat everyday before we got married (when I said I did not know how to cook). Why couldn't he love my child my way?!
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